Did I ever tell ya, When I was living in Cochella valley. I was sitting outside of the Albertsons there in Rancho Mirage on the bench. Same place I met that 98 year old woman and shared a piece of chicken with her I had bought a bag of chicken in the store, offered her a piece and she said thank you and took a wing. She said, they don’t let me eat this stuff anymore. I’m 98 years old. You would think I was old enough to eat whatever the hell I damn well wanted. She moved to Palm Springs back in 69 and was good friends with Bob Hope back in the day. Really nice lady. We just shared a piece of Chicken while she waited for her uber. Really nice lady.
Anyway it was the same spot. I was just sitting there for a minute having a smoke and thinking about stuff on that bench. This is before the George Floyd incident. An older black dude came sat next to me and said hi. I said hi in return and asked how his day was. He said well shit. You know its a bitch getting old. I’m not supposed to smoke anymore. So dont tell anyone but I can I have one of those? I said sure. Gave him a Marlboro Red. I stuck out my hand said, Andy. Nice to meet ya. He stuck our his and his hands were huge, bigger than mine and said Wes good to meet you too. Thanks for the smoke. Ya got a light too. I said yes sir. We sat there and you all know how I am.
I said Wes? He said, yes Andy? I said are you a friend of Dan Fouts? He said wow, yeah I am a friend of Dan’s. I said, would be Was Chandler of the San Diego Chargers? His eyes lite up and he got a huge smile on his face and said, now nobody know who the hell I am now days without an announcement. Holy Cow! I am Wes Chandler. (13 th all time wide receiver in the NFL Hall of fame). I said I used to watch you when I was a kid. You are an amazing athlete. He’s said, well I was. I said what do ya do now? He said. I hang out with white dudes on the bench. I bust out laughing. I said I guess so. He said thanks man. You made my whole week. Nobody remembers me anymore. I said, well I sure hope your week gets alot better.
We sat there a moment just watching people go in and out of the store. I stood up and said nice to meet ya Wes smiled and shook his hand again. He said Like wise Andy. Have. A great day. He smiled and you too.
As I was walking away he said Andy?! I turned still walking and yeah Wes. He said You ever do anything big? I smiled back at him and said, I just did Wes.
He bust out laughing.
Then I grabbed an older ladies grocery cart and returned it to the cart return for her.
We never talked about race, white privilege, or anything else. None of that shit mattered. Just two guys who crossed paths for a moment. What was was super important was recognition that we all have value. Never saw him again. Ya see the news would have ya believe one thing. But most people are just people really… Looking for connection to each other in life.
Hope you take the time to sit and think about stuff for a few. You never know who you might meet or what you might see it that ya haven’t seen before.
Remember, a single act of kindness and recognition can make soemone whole week.
Cue: ~Try it for One Day. You won’t regret it. ~
Hands down the best Positive Affirmation I have found this side of creating your own.